Secrets For Positivity & Creating Your Life

Posted on September 11, 2008. Filed under: wellbeing | Tags: , , , , , , |

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Most of us have either seen or heard of ‘The Secret‘ or attended a seminar on using affirmations, NLP or some other way to achieve success in any area of our life. It is so much simpler than many people make it out to be and of course there are things you need to know in order to really make it work.

Want to be fit and healthy?

Want to feel motivated?

First of all I want you to know, it’s all up to you, what you choose to feel and do and think every day. That’s the simple answer, yes, it really is that simple. Here is ‘The Not-So-Secret Secret’ to achieving or having anything:

  1. Know what it is you really want. “What do I really, really, really want?” and yes you must ask with all the really’s, it stimulates the brain to prioritise. We can want so many things that our brain can become confused “Oh I thought you said you wanted that pretty blue dress, now you telling me that you really just want the money to buy it and everything else. Make up your mind!” So please ask this question as written.
  2. Take some time to sit down and imagine having it. Do not imagine how you are going to get it, yet. Just sit down and imagine having your goal, what you will see, hear and feel when you have achieved your goal/s, one at a time. Imagine that day in as much detail as you can for no more than 3-5 minutes at day. You can also create a vision board or vision slide show (for your computer)
  3. Stay open for opportunities that present themselves to you, and when they do here’s a biggy: Take action and then take some more action. Nothing is achieved by sitting in your living room imagining it’s is going to happen. No really, nothing. Action is the step they missed out of the movie.
  4. Believe you can, and act as if you can. You can, everyone can and you are not any different than anyone else. you are not special enough to be left out of the category of ‘people who can achieve their dreams with a little work and dreaming.’ This category of people includes everyone on this planet and you are included amongst them. If someone who has lost their legs, or their mobility or grown up in squalor can win a gold medal at the Olympics or end up a millionaire and there are many instances of those things happening then YOU CAN, too.
  5. Surround yourself with positive people. This is key! One of the reasons people do not achieve their goals is the doubt created by other people in their lives. Stay away from them and if you cannot, say to them: “I am so grateful that you are trying to keep me safe with your words of caution, BUT I need to try this for myself.” and then remove yourself from their presence and get with some people who are supportive, asap.
  6. Love what you do. Whew! this is a biggy, it is a lot more difficult to achieve a goal if you are doing something day after day that you do not like doing. So either learn to love what you are doing, or find something you love doing and do that for money.
  7. Keep yourself healthy and fit. The healthier and fitter you are the more energetic and motivated you wil feel on a daily basis to achieve those goals.
  8. Take stock regularly. Regularly, at least once a month take stock of what you are doing, figure out what is working and what is not and depending on what you find, change your priorities put what is working at the top of your priorities and what isn’t at the bottom and get rid of most of what isn’t working altogether. We can often get so busy we forget to adjust what we’re doing, to make sure our time is spent on what is working in our lives. Time and energy are prescious don’t waste it on something that is not going to get you where you want to be.
  9. Help others to achieve their dreams. Why? Because along the way the people you help will help you in some way and teach you something you need to learn. Be grateful for those people for their time in your life. Do this with one proviso, people are a part of your taking stock (#8), if there are people in your life that are dragging you down, think seriously of allowing them to slip away, help people who are just as determined and motivated as you are. There are a lot of people out there who say they want to be successful and spend more time giving themselves excuses why they’re not they will waste your time and turn into those people who will eventually begin to doubt yourself.
  10. Believe in yourself. Like I said before you can  be, do and have anything if you want it enoug to take action on a daily basis toward having, being to doing it. If you stay open to the opportunities that present themselves to you and take stock regularly and cut the dross.

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Meditation Is Easier With A Beat

Posted on September 4, 2008. Filed under: wellbeing | Tags: , , , , , |

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I teach meditation and love the effect that regular meditation has had on my life over the past 15 years. A few years ago I found something that made it even easier to meditate and even for those  who are pro’s can help access even deeper states.

Brain Entrainment” CD’s are very interesting to listen to, it usually contains sounds with an inner beat called a “binaural” beat which simply put is just a beat that is heard in alternate ears so that the beat seems to be moving through your head. When the binaural beat is heard in this way, it is able to slow the brain rhythms down and they will follow the lead of the beat throughout the CD.

Never accessed Theta? Easy with these CD’s or Delta? again no problem.  Why do we want to slow our brain rhythms down to theta and delta? Because our body and mind can heal so much faster, we can access our inner wisdom much more easily, sleep better and go through our day with much less stress.

Interestingly it can be easier to concentrate on a single thought like, “I am slim and fit” and if affirmations have never worked for you before, with brainwave entrainment affirmations almost become a focus and a priority in your life and you will find yourself seeking out opportunities to make them come true.

Why not give it a try? I use mine all the time, especially on those days when I am feeling a little too “over it” to settle down into a quiet meditation, the CD’s make it easy and I sleep like a baby.

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and… Sleep, Sleep or You May Not Be Able to Make Sense of Your World

Posted on May 21, 2008. Filed under: health, wellbeing | Tags: , , , , |

Overview of biological circadian clock in humans. Biological clock affects the daily rhythm of many physiological processes. This diagram depicts the circadian patterns typical of someone who rises early in morning, eats lunch around noon, and sleeps at night (10 p.m.). Although circadian rhythms tend to be synchronized with cycles of light and dark, other factors - such as ambient temperature, meal times, stress and exercise - can influence the timing as well.

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Scientists have found that we need sleep even more than we thought. In a study that kept people awake and then tested their responses proved that they could manage ordinary, day to day tasks. however they found it really difficult to make sense of what they saw. How often do we go without sleep partticularly man on shift work and women going through menopause and yet do not stop to think about what the lack of sleep is doing to us and how it can alter our perception of the world?

“The scientists found that even after sleep deprivation, people had periods of near-normal brain function in which they could finish tasks quickly. However, this normalcy mixed with periods of slow response and severe drops in visual processing and attention, according to their paper, published in the Journal of Neuroscience on May 21.

“Interestingly, the team found that a sleep-deprived brain can normally process simple visuals, like flashing checkerboards. But the ‘higher visual areas’ – those that are responsible for making sense of what we see – didn’t function well,” said Dr. Michael Chee, lead author and professor at the Neurobehavioral Disorders Program at Duke-NUS. “Herein lies the peril of sleep deprivation.” Physorg

If you’re finding it difficult to get enough sleep try these simple suggestions:

  • a glass of warm milk (yes, it does work because it has calcium and tryptophan both great for soothing the brain.
  • make sure it is dark in your bedroom, your pineal regulates your circadian rhythms through light and the absence of it
  • be sure to get at least 15 minutes of sunlight on your face every day (around 8-9am or 4-5pm for sun safety, this light is important as it will signal the pineal to regulate your circadian rhythms
  • if you are not asleep within 1/2 an hour to an hour get up and make a cup of warm milk and sit quietly in the dark and sip (when you get up at night use as little light as possible, none if you can get away with it, I use the light in my oven.
  • sit up and do 15 minutes of meditation (my favourite) and then just snuggle back down again and allow yourself to drift off
  • body temperature is really important for sleep, our core temperature must cool for us to be able to sleep, so stick a foot out or both hands and Chill!

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More Social Connections Means More Brain Connections

Posted on April 4, 2008. Filed under: wellbeing | Tags: , , , , , , , |

Are you finding that your memory not as good as it used to be?

Is maths a stumbling block?

Are you finding it difficult to learn something new?

Go out and get some friends! Yes, research tells us that the more social connections you have and the more you interact with others the more brain connections you will make and the more plasticity you brain will retain. Humans are social animals and we need to remember that in this age of technology, just look at the success of social media. However, this is not the same as getting out and being social.

Mental fitness seems to depend on a large part on being connected with other people. For instance people with low social support seem to be more prone to mental illness (McGuire & Raleigh, 1986). In 2007, Gladstone and colleagues studied 218 patients with major depression and found out that low social support, especially coming from the family, was associated with chronic depression.

Merely imagining loneliness can negatively affect our behavior…

Baumeister et al. (2005) showed that compared to people who were not told anything, people who were told that they would likely end up alone in life:

– were less able to make themselves consume a healthy but bad-tasting beverage
– quit faster in trying to solve hard and frustrating puzzles.
Telling people that their future would be marred by a tendency to be accident prone (injuries and the like) did not affect their behavior. This shows how much social contact is crucial for human beings!

A new study, published in 2008 by Ybarra and his colleagues went even further by showing that socializing and mental exercises have very similar effects in terms of improving brain functions!

Even after controlling for physical health and daily activity levels, they found that the more socially engaged people were, the higher their cognitive performance.

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